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Thoughts On Turning 30

written by Parita 9 Comments

Thanks to the power of social media, the whole world knows it was my birthday yesterday!  And yes, it was the big 3-0.

First of all, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for all the wishes, messages, emails, etc!  Each and every one put a huge smile on my face.  Big hugs to all of you!!

So, for those of you who are also approaching this age, don’t be nervous, scared, etc.  I am still a firm believer that age is just a number, and that as long as you don’t act your age, it’s all good!  In fact, I was told that by many older and wiser friends and relatives.

Case in point…

30th birthday

Vishnu stuck the balloon into my ponytail for the picture.  I’m lucky I married a guy that also follows the age is just a number philosophy!

However, if you’re like me in that your mind often wanders and thinks (a little too) deeply about things, you may see an increase in frequency of these said thoughts.  Especially around your 30th birthday.

Unfortunately, my thoughts aren’t all that unique or profound.  I didn’t come up with any major insights or groundbreaking theories about turning 30.  Instead, my thoughts were all about the things I want to take forward into this new decade and also the things I want to leave behind.

I thought about how I want to take more ownership for the way things turn out in my life.  It’s so easy to blame circumstance or other people when things don’t turn out they way you want them to, but in reality, we create our own destinies with the choices we make.  And as adults, we need to own the fact that we do have a say.  This doesn’t shield us from any of the “bad” things that sometimes happen, but it does open up a new path for the future.  No more of the victim mentality.

I also thought about about how taking ownership for my own life doesn’t mean controlling the outcome.  In my twenties, I had a plan.  And no one, and I mean no one, could come between me and my plan.  Or so I thought.  I’ve learned that there’s a plan and then there’s what actually happens.  Sometimes the two match up and sometimes unforeseen things happen…and that’s ok.  One of my (older and wiser) coworkers summed it up perfectly when she said that our twenties are all about control and wanting everything to go a certain way, our thirties are about learning how to let go of that control, and after that it’s about coming to terms with the fact that life happens to us.  Looking back at some of my personal challenges and triumphs, I realize how true that really is.  Control equals tunnel vision.  And when it’s all about your plan, you become blind to the joy, the lessons, and the opportunities that exist all around you.

And finally, I  thought about how I want to be more authentic – with others and myself.  In my personal opinion, I’ve changed a lot over the past 10-15 years.  I’ve gone from a full-time people pleaser to a part-time one.  Now it’s time to quit and be more real.  And this doesn’t mean not caring, not loving, etc.  It means caring so much (about others and yourself) that you want people to experience and get to know you for you.  It means loving so much that you want to be honest and share what’s on your mind.  It means inviting others to do the same and showing them that it’s not so bad.

That pretty much sums up my major thoughts over the past week or so.  Maybe they were a little deeper than I thought!

Thanks again for all the birthday love!  And speaking of birthdays, I totally forgot to mention that My Inner Shakti turned three on January 21st!  So thank you for all the blog love over the past few years as well!  I hope you know how much each and every one of you means to me!  Here’s to another year of love, adventure, lessons, happiness…and writing!

Written on January 24, 2014 Related:Inspirational, Life, Self

Just Some Stuff + Great Transitions

written by Parita 12 Comments

This is going to be one of those “here’s some stuff that’s been going on/will be going on” type of posts.  Hopefully my little update is more interesting than the title of this post!

So first and foremost, my pre-transfer image files are back!  What a freakin’ relief….seriously.  I thought all was lost, since none of my personal efforts were working.  As a final measure, I contacted a WordPress.com team member on the forums and she pretty much saved my blog.  After a little bit of digging, she figured out the problem, told me exactly what to do, and now all is well in the world! 

someecards diagnostic check on computer

This transfer stuff is nuts!  I’m still really glad I did it on my own, but it was definitely a huge learning curve.  Feel free to email me with any questions if you decide to take the plunge.  I have lots of wisdom to share!

Wisdom is gained with age, and guess what, I turn 30 next week (great transition #1!).  Instead of celebrating in an all out kind of way, I think I may take next Friday off from work and make it a true Parita day. 

My mom, on the other hand, has been counting down to my birthday since January 1st.  She loves reminiscing about what she was doing 30 years ago, and in all honesty, I don’t blame her.  I’ve always believed that birthdays are more of a celebration for the parents, and I hope mine celebrate 30 successful (I think!) years of being amazing ones!

Speaking of my parents (great transition #2!), they really wanted to get me a birthday present this year.  For some reason, my mom was all about the Vera Bradley bags, and my dad was all about perfumes.  I was not.  So instead, they told me to pick something I really wanted.  Enter the Polar FT4.  After a little bit of research on the part of me, my sister, and Vishnu, I decided that I wanted this heart rate monitor.  I’ll share more once I’ve had the chance to play around with a bit…

Polar ft4

…next week at Best Body Bootcamp (great transition #3!)!  Woo hoo!  The next round starts on Monday, and I am so so so ready.  I’ve only been strength training once or twice a week for the past 1.5 months and can’t wait to incorporate more of it into my weekly workouts.  It’s still not too late to join, people.  And if you do, I promise it will change your life! 

And finally, my life (not so great transition #4) is going to be a little crazy at the beginning of February (another reason why I want to take a day off next week).  In the span of 2 weeks, I’ll be flying to Chicago, Las Vegas, and Atlanta.  Chicago for a work related training, Las Vegas for Roshni’s bachelorette party (!!!), and Atlanta for a friend’s engagement party.  Even though it’s going to be a little hectic, I’m looking forward to seeing my coworkers, good friends, and family!  Should be a good two weeks.

Tell me – what “stuff” do you have going on right now? 
Do you find it hard to come up with transitions?
  I am ok most of the time, but with random posts like this, YES. 

Written on January 17, 2014 Related:Life, random

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