Happy Friday! This was a fairly normal week for us (finally!), except for the fact that Vishnu was sick. Hoping that we’ve seen the last of it for a while at least.

What are your weekend plans? We have some special stuff going on. Will share next week. But let’s say it involves LOTS of time with our framily! Can’t wait!

My pattern with these Friday Stuff posts is trending more towards thoughts versus links, and I’m not mad about it. I love having an outlet for all the randomness in my head.

With that, let’s get into some Friday Stuff – thoughts + links…

Expectations and Reality

Since starting Master of Change, I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of joy and fulfillment being tied to either an alignment or misalignment between expectations and reality. This is definitely the case for me sometimes, especially when it comes to the kids.

When my expectations are in line with my true reality, things go fairly well. When my expectations are too high…not so much.

So now, before I transition into the next thing with them, I say to myself, “Your reality is that you have two young kids. The reality is that they will probably whine, cry, tantrum, show attitude, etc. That’s ok, expected and out of your control. You are their sturdy leader, and this is not an emergency. You’ve got this.”

I then lower whatever expectations I have by 10 fold and proceed.

It’s still a work in progress, but it’s still helping!

Detaching from the Outcomes

I’ve been thinking a lot about maintain neutrality. For me, this means being steady when things go well and especially when they don’t. MUCH easier said than done.

A lot of this rests in detaching from the outcomes you’re looking for. Your power rests in your thoughts, feelings, and actions…not always in what comes of them.

By focusing on your path, your actions, and who you want to be along the way, you can start to loosen your ties with the outcomes. You can also tell yourself, “I can only do the best I can with what I have. If X goes well, I’ll be ok. If X doesn’t go well, I’ll be ok.”

Because the ultimate truth is…all will be ok. It may not look the way you want, but it will be ok.

There really is no alternative thinking that can feed our souls, our joy, our peace, our fulfillment, our happiness…

Detach from the outcomes. It will all be ok.

Men in Power

The other night, a group of girlfriends and I got together for bookclub and dessert. We discussed Lessons in Chemistry, and one of the central themes that came up is that men (not all but many) in power do some crazy and disgusting s***.

The book itself makes this case very boldly, but also in recent news, men like Sean Combs, Andrew Huberman, and even Jay Shetty (nothing super crazy but just that a lot of his story is falsified) just highlight that power isn’t always used for good.

This is yet another reminder to always trust your gut and questions everything.

Links I Loved This Week

6 Pieces Of Tough Love That Will Make Your Life Infinitely Better РI shared this piece on the blog years ago and happened to come across it again. Too good not to reshare.

A Parenting Realization That Really Moved Me – Witnessing other people, especially those we love and cherish most in this life, is so powerful. A very intentional way to be in the now.

To Perform Better, Be Joyfully Deliberate – This is written with sports in mind, but the concept can be applied to all facets of life. This is definitely something I want to teach my kids too!

By Parita

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