Happy Friday! I hope y’all had a good week.

This week was a fun, albeit somewhat restless, one. Kaiden’s on Spring Break through next Tuesday. I filled our week with smaller outings and/or fun things at home (re: games, puzzles, etc.).

The restless part has to do with being home and unproductive last week and wanting this week to be fuller and busier. #firstworldproblems

Anyways, we have a fun few days coming up. I can’t wait to spend time with some of my favorite people! Will share more next week.

For this week’s Friday stuff, I thought I would share some random thoughts I’ve been having (what can I say – lots of time to think).

THE IDEA OF PRODUCTIVITY – For so long, a large part of my sense of purpose and value has been tied to productive work – actual career work, personal projects, etc. Things that I can quantify and show something for.

In this season of life, I have days/weeks of productive periods, and then BAM, something happens that slows me way down (or stops me completely).

For the past two weeks (as an example), I’ve had to slow way down, and I’m not going to lie, it’s been hard. I do things here and there but never feel like I have anything to show for my tiny efforts.

I’m trying really hard to change the narrative in my head from one of doing and finding value + purpose solely in the things I do to JUST BEING and knowing my worth is tied to my humanity. Period.

Hard to do when you’ve been living with a completely story playing in your mind your whole life but doable!

PARENTING A 6 YEAR OLD – Parenting is interesting because you’re only as experienced as the age of your oldest child. What I mean is this is our first time parenting a six year old, but when Mila turns this age, we’ll have had some experience.

Six (almost 7) is an interesting age. It’s smart, funny, full of personality, curious AND also rebellious, sassy, full of attitude, resistance, etc. Every day is a balance of the two…sometimes it feels like whip lash – back and forth, back and forth.

I have no answers except to say that grace on all fronts will never hurt. Yes, your kid deserves grace, but so do you. You’ve literally never done this before. Also, a good old fashioned pause is also very very helpful. So much easier said than done, but whenever possible, pause! It’s never a bad thing to give yourself some space to think before you react/respond.

Something else I remind myself of is that adults have a hard time with emotional regulation so how can I expect my 6 year old to have it together all the time…I can’t!

We’re all in this together!

THINK ABOUT YOUR SYSTEM – We are constantly told to try this and do that in terms of habits and goals. Everyone is an expert is these days!

The thing no one tells us to take into consideration is the system we’re operating in – our family structure, our careers, our partner’s career…any other constraints that impact your day to day life. Another part of the system is completely in your control – what you bring into your home (re: food), who you hang out with, the places you go, etc.

When crafting habits and goals, take your system into consideration, both the parts you can change and even the parts you can’t. This will lead to greater success and consistency.

Alright…that’s all she wrote! I hope you have a good weekend.

By Parita

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