Early on in life, being picky is usually seen as negative thing. For example, toddlers can be picky eaters and that can oftentimes pose a problem for parents.
Even later in life, I’ve had several friends be told that they’re too picky because they aren’t married yet. (Side note: I mean, I get that parents worry, but really? Too picky about who you’re going to spend the rest of your life with? Hmm…)
Now that I’m in my thirties, I consider pickiness to be a positive attribute. I know it’s cliché, but you only get this one life. There are no second chances or do overs. That’s why I’m not going to apologize for being picky about the following three things. In fact, I’m only going to be pickier from here on out!
Like it is with so many other things in life, we oftentimes don’t respect time until it’s a thing of the past. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. Time is precious.
And that’s exactly why I want to be pickier about how I spend my time. Admittedly, I’m not the best at this. However, I’m trying to be more present and aware of how I choose to spend my free time. If I find myself aimlessly watching TV or surfing the internet, I check in and ask myself if this is really what I want to be doing right now. If the answer is yes, then I continue on. If the answer is no, I turn my attention to something more meaningful.
I’m also trying to be better about prioritizing my time so that it’s not always filled with other people’s agenda items. This ensures that the ever important “me” activities don’t get pushed to the back burner.
Over the past couple of years, I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) that one of the best things you can do is be picky about who you let into your life.
I used to be the kind of person that wanted everyone to be a part of her life. Even if people didn’t return the favor, I’d do my absolute best to keep in touch. I’d also make excuses for people who were less than kind. And those excuses usually resulted in me blaming myself for their behavior. One word comes to mind when I think of those days…EXHAUSTING!
So now, I’m choosing to be picky not only about who comes into my life but also who stays. I’m trying very hard to be more positive, grounded and zen. The last thing I need is someone else’s negative energy. And by no means am I saying that I only want positive people all the time. In fact, that wouldn’t be very authentic at all. I guess my point is that if someone’s overall vibe is negative, I don’t want or need it.
LIFE IS TOO DAMN SHORT!
I’m a firm believer in that money (aka “things”) can’t buy happiness. In my 31 years, I’ve seen plenty of unhappy people with plenty of money and “things.” I’ve also seen lots of happy people with very little in terms of the things money can buy. Now, I know this isn’t as black and white as I’m making it seem, but overall, when I reflect on the happiest/most fulfilling moments in my life, they had nothing to do with the things money can buy. They did, however, have to do with an experience of some sort. And I totally acknowledge that some experiences in life require a little dough!
Vishnu and I are ridiculously fortunate in terms of our finances. Don’t get me wrong. We aren’t bringing in the big bucks by any means, but for the most part, money isn’t something we worry about regularly. However, that doesn’t mean we can/should spend freely on “things.” In fact, my goal with our next move is to get rid of as many “things” as possible.
What I do want is for us to be pickier about how we prioritize between things and experiences. For example, I splurged a little for better seats at the Aziz Ansari show this weekend because I know it’s going to be a fun experience for both me and Vishnu. AND it’s his birthday! Travel is another experience I want us to prioritize. Our trip to Italy, while expensive, was beyond amazing! The memories we created will stay with me for the rest of my life.
Sometimes “things” are necessary and even warranted, but when it comes to how you choose to spend your money, prioritize and pick experiences over “things.” Trust me, you’re guaranteed to get a better happiness return!
Thanks for reading and happy Friday!
Do you find yourself getting pickier as you get older? How so?