Like many immigrants, my parents came to this country with very little. Two suitcases and $40 between the two of them.
When I sit back and really think about this and look at how much they’ve accomplished in 32 years, I’m truly amazed. Talk about starting at the bottom and working your way up! But even more than what they’ve accomplished, it’s how they’ve done it. Simply put, they never gave up. Settling for the path of least resistance (or no resistance) was never an option. And it’s still not. In fact, I would say that this is the best unintentional lesson they’ve passed on to me and my sister.
A perfect example of this would my mom recently getting a new job (same company, new job). A little bit of background information – my mom has been trying to move into a different department for the last year. When she realized that most of the jobs she was interested in required two specific financial licensing exams, she talked to her management and signed up ASAP (this is where I get it from!). Not only did she sign up for the exams, but she studied hard and passed both of them on the first go. No easy feat! Then, after applying to numerous positions, going on a ton of interviews, and never making the cut, she finally made a really good connection with a hiring manager and got a job she’s excited about.
When my mom first heard she got the job, she was obviously overjoyed! One of the very first things she said to me when we spoke was that she wants to share a message with people – a message about not giving up.
And that is why instead of sharing my thoughts about my mom’s experience, I’m letting her do the talking while I do the typing!
Me: Hi momma! I’m so excited to help you share your story with people like you wanted. Anything you want to say before we get started?
Momma: Hello to all of Parita’s My Inner Shakti readers! I’m excited to share my thoughts with all of you.
Me: You’ve been trying to move upwards and onwards for a long time. What kept you going?
Momma: I wanted to get out of my comfort zone. Also, I knew it was time to try something new and I knew I could do it! I was going to get there.
Me: Did you ever felt like giving up? What kept you from doing so?
Momma: Yes, I did feel like giving up, but I did not let that thought stay in my mind for too long. I didn’t give up because I was confident that I could do what I wanted to do. Eventually, I was going to get there. It just required a little bit of patience from me. Also my faith helped me a lot. It reminded me that it’s natural to feel frustrated every now and then, but at the same time it gave me the strength to move forward.
Me: What would you say were your biggest lessons learned over the last year or so?
Momma: The biggest one was to never ever give up on something you believe in. As long as you don’t do that, you will get there. Persistency is the key to everything in life. Also, there’s a lot of power in believing in yourself. No matter how frustrated you get or how hard life gets, look inwards and push outward.
Me: If you could go back and do things differently, would you?
Momma: No, not really. Except maybe be more patient! Everything happens for a reason. It’s hard to think this way when you’re in the middle of a challenge, but that’s a fact. And I guess I would have done more mental reality checks. Even though I wanted a different job, I wish I had stopped to be a little more grateful that I already had a good job. Always appreciate what you have, even while trying for new and different things.
Me: What advice would you give someone facing a difficult situation right now who is wanting to give up?
Momma: Think about how you want to feel after the situation has passed and use that to motivate you. If you give up, you will not get there. But if you persist and keep moving forward, you will. One way or another you will get there.
Me: Any last words?
Momma: I don’t believe in giving up! Don’t ever do that!
What’s the best unintentional lesson your parents have passed on to you?