Have you ever met someone, engaged in conversation, and felt as though he or she was talking to your soul? If you haven’t yet, I hope you get to experience that someday. It’s incredible.
I met someone like that the other day when I was out and about with my coworkers. We ended up talking a lot about our individual journeys, the ups and downs we’ve experienced over the years, and how painful emotional interactions with other human beings have affected our sense of self. And sometimes even our souls.
Side note: It’s funny how we all share similar life experiences without ever realizing it. Regardless of where we come from, how much money we make, etc., we’re all on a journey, we’ve all experienced the good and the bad life has to offer, and we’ve all lived through painful emotional relationships.
This woman we were with shared a really creative, spiritual, and simple metaphor that changed how I’m going to deal with the people in my life going forward. Because let’s face it, sometimes the people we love*** put us through some trying times, and you can’t just say adios and walk away. And sometimes you want to take the higher road and not engage in an argument.
So, she said that when someone in your life puts you through emotional pain, you have to anticipate it coming, and put on a [figurative] pain blocking raincoat beforehand. This raincoat will help ensure that whatever comments, looks, etc. are thrown your way don’t penetrate any deeper than they need to. The droplets will slide right off. And when you’re done being around this individual, you have to leave the raincoat behind. You don’t take those emotions with you because they DO NOT belong to you. While you can’t avoid painful interactions, life is too short and too sweet to be taking on the negative energy of others. And that is exactly why you have an extra raincoat on hand at all times!
Stylish figurative raincoats are a must!
I thought this way of thinking was absolutely genius. And I kid you not, as she was talking to us about this and many other things, I felt something shift inside of me. Pretty soulful stuff!
Happy Friday!
***When I refer to people in this post, I’m not talking about relationships/pain that is ongoing and constant. I’m referring to those individuals you see and interact with occasionally.
this is the kind of thing I need to hear every now and then.. because as you mentioned above, it doesnt matter how rich, beautiful, professionally advanced etc etc you are – we all are on the journey to something and at the end of the day,love and happiness is all that matters. The raincoat concept it pretty cool, i wish it was as easy to apply in real life, maybe it takes a lot of practice and patience..Happy Friday Friend 🙂
Like any self-development, this concept will and should take time to implement in our lives. But I really think that once we do, everything changes for the better. 🙂
I agree 100% with Dixya on the raincoat concept being cool, but it is not easy to apply in real life. However like she said with lot’s of practice and patience (key word) it will happen and after all we will never know if it works or not if we never tried.
Loved today’s post. I heard similar solution to avoid negative energy bonding with you and we all need to try to wear a raincoat like that when needed!!!
Love you pumkin:)
you are so adorable. I love it every time you come here and comment, finally had to say it this time 🙂
Love you too, momma! 🙂 And like you said, even though it’s hard, we have to try.
I love having my eyes opened when I read your posts, Parita. I would love to have a thicker ‘raincoat’ but I can’t help but bring those attachments with me inside.
I recently had one of those soul-engaging conversations with a complete stranger a few weeks ago. It left me feeling weird for a few days.
Thank you, Tara! My conversation left me feeling a little strange as well. In a good way of course!
Oh I love this perspective, P! It kind of reminds me of something my mom told me a while back- the way someone mistreats you is a reflection on their character, not yours. Even though it’s hard to sometimes not carry emotional baggage, especially that of those you love, hopefully it gets easier over time!
Love that thinking – so true! Your mom is a smart lady!
Unfortunately I let what people say bother me, I need to work on developing thicker skin. Will keep this in mind. Thanks for sharing.
I hope this helps. Definitely agree that it will take time but hopefully it gets easier as well.
I, like Honey, let things bother me far too much. I need a raincoat. Badly.
On a positive note, I love that your Momma commented above! So sweet.