Happy New Year!! I hope all of you were able to celebrate the beginning of 2013 in a special way. I know we did! No worries…I’ll be sure to recap our Chicago trip soon. 🙂
I’ve been wanting Vishnu to write (or even contribute to) a post since I began this blog almost two years ago. Time has always been an issue. However that was not the case on our drive back from Atlanta last Friday. He was stuck in the car with me so I took advantage of the situation and made him answer a few questions about married life. We are now six months in, and while it’s nice to share what I think and feel about marriage, I thought it would be fun to document his thoughts.
Since our “interview” went so well, I thought I would share. And it makes for a nice change of pace from my usual ramblings
What are your three favorite things about being married?
1. It’s fun to wake up with someone you love next to you and start your day with them.
2. It’s awesome to have someone to come home to and share your day with.
3. Life is less stressful because I’m having a lot of fun, and I know there’s so much more to explore from here.
What advice would you give to a couple that was thinking about marriage?
Communicate. This one thing will make for an easier time. Just talk about the things that bother you before they become bigger things. Marriage is a partnership and everything should be openly addressed and talked about.
What expectations did you have pre-marriage that were either held up or defeated?
1. I thought we would bicker a lot more because Par is a control freak (true story). We never lived together before the wedding, and I thought our personalities would clash. Surprisingly, we have been able to come to common ground on 99.9% of things fairly quickly (because we communicate).
2. Going in, I knew it would be tough for us to balance school, work, and life. It’s not always easy to hang out whenever we want, but I try my best to make time for Par. Marriage is slightly harder with school and exams constantly looming in the background. But we make it work for us!
3. I thought the meat versus veggie thing would be somewhat of an issue. While I still eat meat and have no plans to give it up, I think by understanding where Par is coming from and why she wants us to eat the way we do, I have a new appreciate for (healthy) vegetarian food.
How has your relationship with my parents and sister changed?
I’ve known Par’s family for as long as I’ve known her, but now that we’re married I truly feel like they are my family. I’ve always loved and cared about them, but after this trip home (Vishnu’s first since getting married) I realized that our relationship has grown and changed in great ways. I am more than Par’s husband…I am their son and brother. It’s funny how a document and ceremony can change that.
What have you learned about me in the last six months that you didn’t know before?
Par is a lot more independent than I thought she would be. I was worried that with my busy schedule, she would have a hard time doing her own thing in Fort Lauderdale, but that hasn’t been the case. As much as we’re a system, she’s really her own person.
What are you looking forward to in the next six months?
A huge part of the next six months will consist of boards studying, however I’d like to…
1. Explore South Florida more now that we’re settled in
2. Try new restaurants
3. Go to the beach more
4. Have more wine and cheese nights 🙂
Well, that’s enough Vishnu for now! He’ll be back later. 🙂
We hope 2013 brings all of you lots of love, happiness, and fun!