Helllloooo! The title of today’s post has kind of a double meaning. Just wait and see…
A lot of fellow bloggers are addressing the comparison trap topic on their blogs lately, and it’s got me thinking about how no matter how hard you try, it’s so easy to fall into the “trap.” I, for one, am guilty of sometimes allowing someone’s positive stories and experiences affect me to the point that I forget about all the great things I have going on in my life.
Two examples come to mind when I think of this nasty trap…
One has to do with my long distance relationship. I find myself getting sad and emotional when I hear about and see a lot of my friends and acquaintances getting to spend good quality time with their significant others on a regular basis (Facebook is a huge culprit). Heck, I even get sad seeing strangers holding hands sometimes. It makes me think about how Vishnu and I have had almost three years of distance, and how much I hate it. As soon as I let the sadness engulf me, it starts to morph into other emotions like jealously, anger, etc. And trust me, there’s nothing fun about being upset over a situation that you can’t really change [for the time being]. As of late, I’m trying to change my mindset by focusing on the positives of my relationship all on its own. And something my mom’s always said to me is that you really never know what someone’s going through or what their life is like unless you’ve truly experienced it for yourself. So, even though a couple may seem happy on the outside, that doesn’t mean that their lives are fairytale-like and perfect. We are all fighting our own battles in one way or another.
The second example has to do with blogging and the lives of other bloggers. Again, I think it’s so easy to read any number of blogs and start picking apart your meals, workouts, and life. As I start to feel those thoughts enter my mind, I am trying to make a concious effort to remind myself that not everyone is going to post about the meals gone wrong, the unproductive workouts, and the daily ebbs and flow of life. But it’s all there, even though we don’t always read about it. Take me for example, I try to remain as positive as possible on this blog, but trust me, I have days where I am sad, angry, frustrated, etc. It happens to everyone. So, just because I can’t run as fast as others; or I don’t have the flattest stomach ever; or I am not Ms. Blogger Extraordinaire with thousands of site hits per day, it’s OK because I am ME! See, we are all works in progress, and none of us is perfect, but that’s the beauty of it all – we’re all in it together!
By changing the focus to be more inward than outward, we can break apart the “trap.” Because in the end, all that matters and all you really have is YOUR body, YOUR mind, YOUR thoughts, and YOUR soul.
Phew, that’s a lot of deep stuff…so, just as looks can be deceiving with people, they can be equally deceiving with food. Let’s take tonight’s dinner…at first glance it looks kinda yucky but really tastes amazing! I found an interesting twist to the traditional egg salad on Clean Eating magazine’s website. I’d been wanting to try it out for a while and finally got around to it today. Here’s a picture, so y’all know what I’m talking about…
Avocado Egg Salad
Adapted from this recipe
3 hardboiled eggs, coarsely chopped
1/2 avocado, mashed
1/4 of a small onion, finely chopped
1/2 tablespoon mayonnaise (I know what some of you are thinking, but I used the kind with olive oil!)
salt and pepper to taste
1/4 teaspoon garlic powder
1/2 teaspoon paprika
Combine all of the ingredients from the avocado down and then fold in the eggs. Ta-da! That’s it! My dinner today was toast smeared with goat cheese topped with avocado egg salad . I assure you that this salad tastes great on its own as well! And again, it looks not so appetizing but its finger-licking good!
Well, I’m going to call it a night. But before I go, here are a few questions to think about…
Have you ever been or are you ever a victim of the comparison trap?
What foods do you make that look gross but taste delicious?