Words of Marital Wisdom – Part 2

About six months before my wedding, I emailed a number of my female friends/family members and asked them to send me their best marital advice.  And then I shared all of their thoughts in this post.

I loved and appreciated (and still do) all the wisdom they imparted on me!

Now two plus years later, I have a few of my own words of marital wisdom.  I’m a marriage expert after all.  Jusssssssst kidding!  An expert I am not but I do have a few things to share that go beyond the obvious (trust, love, be honest, etc.).

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  • No matter what, spend a few minutes each day laughing together.  From what I can tell, this whole marriage thing is supposed to be fun.
  • Say “I love you” as much as possible and say it like you mean it.  Even when you’re angry.  Especially when you’re angry.
  • Don’t say “I’m fine” when you’re not.  Just don’t!
  • If something is bothering you, bring it up…but be nice about it and/or inject a little humor into the conversation.
  • You can’t change your significant other, so don’t bother trying.  People only change when they themselves want to.  Instead, love, support, and appreciate.  You can’t go wrong doing those things!
  • Put your phone away whenever possible, and spend your time wisely.  Remember, your phone isn’t going anywhere.
  • Date nights are important.  Make them a priority.
  • Maintain your own hobbies, interests, etc.  Being married doesn’t mean you have to be joined at the hip for the next 50 years.
  • Don’t put romance on the back burner.  This isn’t to say that every moment has to be a romantic one but work hard to keep it alive as much as possible.
  • Compliment each other at least once everyday.  And to all my fellow women who have a hard time accepting compliments, just say thanks.
  • Two important words – thank you…say them often!
  • You’re not perfect, your significant other isn’t perfect…basically, perfection does not exist in marriage.  Always remember that!

Annnnd…that’s where my wisdom ends.  I’ll be back with more tid bits in another two years! Haha.

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And because I love quotes, here is one about marriage that I LOVE!

“The difference between an ordinary marriage and an extraordinary marriage is in giving just a little ‘extra’ every day, as often as possible, for as long as we both shall live.”
— Fawn Weaver

What’s the best piece of relationship advice you’ve received?

Current Workouts, Half Marathon, and Say Your Name

After getting back from Atlanta, I started putting a bit more effort into my workouts. As I’ve mentioned several times, I kind of fell off the wagon for a bit…BUT I’m back! And this is where my type A personality and love for structure come in handy!

When I got home from work last Monday, I printed out monthly calendars for October 2014-January 2015. I also printed out Hal Higdon’s intermediate half marathon training plan. And then I got to work.

Half marathon plan
After double and triple checking my ability to count back 12 weeks from January 25, I put a star next to October 27. Eek – the day my training begins! That brings me to my current workouts.

Current workouts

In my mind, October 6-27 equals a pre-half-marathon warm up period. This is my time to prep my body for what’s to come. I honestly hadn’t been running as much as I wanted over the past month, so during these three weeks, my plan is to ease my way back into regular runs and strength training workouts. So far so good.

Here’s what last week looked like:
Monday – 3.25 mile run
Tuesday – Full-body strength workout + 20 minute incline walk
Wednesday – REST!
Thursday – 3.25 mile run
Friday – Full-body strength workout + elliptical/rowing machine
Saturday – 4.5 mile run

And here’s what I have planned for this week:
Sunday – 3.25 mile walk
Monday – Full-body strength workout + 20 minute incline walk
Tuesday – 3.25 mile run
Wednesday – Full-body strength workout + elliptical
Thursday – REST
Friday – Fitness Blender Barre workout
Saturday – 4.5 mile run

And I’m hoping week three looks similar.

I’ve been logging all my runs in the Map My Run app. When I first decided to run this half, I didn’t really care about my time. I just wanted to run the whole thing. But now a part of me wants to get a little faster. I’m averaging 10 minute miles right now. My goal is to bring that down to 9:30. We’ll see how that goes!

And as far as strength training is concerned, I’ve been searching the web to find new, fun, and short workouts (YouTube, DVDs, blogs, etc.). This one is my current favorite!

Half marathon training

Miami Half Marathon
As I mentioned, I’ll be following Hal Higdon’s training plan. I was really happy with how it prepared me for my previous two runs so why mess with a good thing!

I will, however, be making small tweaks this time around. The weekend long runs will stay as is, but how I structure the week will change. I definitely want to continue with my strength workouts and some form of cross-training. As of right now, I’m thinking no more than 2-3 runs during the week.

Say Your Name

And finally, my mom shared an NPR article with me last week titled “Why Saying is Believing – The Science of Self-Talk.” The article addresses some really interesting research on how self-talk and the words we use impact how we see ourselves.

Towards the end of the article, the researchers talk about how referring to yourself in the third person has a powerful effect on performance. It turns out that we’re a lot more supportive and kinder to ourselves when we say our name versus “I.”

I decided to put this finding into practice during my next run, which just so happened to be the 4.5 miler on Saturday. Around the two mile mark, I felt the urge to walk. So I said to myself, “Come on, Parita, you made the decision to run the entire time today. You can do it!” And then again, at the 3.5 mile mark I really felt like walking, but I didn’t. Instead, I said to myself, “Parita you are stronger than you believe. You can do this. Only one more mile to go!”

And guess what. I didn’t walk at all. I ran the entire 4.5 miles at a pretty decent pace. As crazy as it seems to refer to yourself in the third person, I see why it’s so powerful. When I did it during my run, it felt like someone else was cheering me on – a much nicer person who really believed in my capabilities.

I know it sounds a little kooky, but try it…perhaps during your next workout or before an important presentation/test/interview/meeting.

Do you have any races coming up?
Do you plan out your weekly workouts or do you prefer to go with the flow?

Fun, Productive, and a Little Lazy

The title of today’s post describes my weekend perfectly.  This was our first full weekend back in Miami together so I wanted to spend time with Vishnu, run some errands, and take it easy a little.  I’m happy to report that I was able to do just that!

Friday evening started with Presley’s Stability Ball Circuit three times through. I also went down to our gym with the elliptical on my mind.  After quickly realizing that the machine started over every time you changed directions, I jumped off and made my way to the rowing machine (for the first time in years).  I selected the 2000m workout and…ummm…it was hard.  I wanted to quit halfway through but pushed on.  I definitely paid the price all weekend.  Between rowing and the circuit workout, I was so sore!

After showering and getting ready, it was date night – dinner and a movie!

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Before I go on, I have to mention my new Ann Taylor maxi dress.  Bottom line…I freaking love it.  I bought it online with a friend while in Austin after seeing one of the other girls wearing it.  Mine is petite and the perfect length (I’m a little over 5’2”).  The style and cut are super flattering, and the material is very soft and flowy.  LOVE!

Ok, so back to date night.  Vishnu and I went to LoKal Burgers and Beer for dinner.  My veggie burger and green bean and bruschetta side dish were both awesome.  And Vishnu really enjoyed his burger and fries.  We will definitely be back.

After dinner, we made our way over to the theater to see Gone Girl.  Both Vishnu and I really enjoyed it!  I read the book a while ago and was excited to hear that the movie followed the book almost to a tee.  Everything was spot on and just the way I imagined it – the acting, the setting, the suspense.  A must watch if you ask me!

The movie didn’t get out until 12:45 am, so of course that meant we started our Saturday a bit later than planned.  And by later I mean 11:00 am.  I was a little thrown off the rest of the day but still got a lot done.  I went to Target, the mall, and Costco, which ended up taking over three hours!  We needed quite a few things, so it was worth it.  I also fit in a 4.5 mile run before dinner (will be blogging about my current runs and half marathon plan soon).  And then Vishnu and I made pizza using crusts I bought at Costco.  The outcome was delicious!

Pizza night
Sautéed onions, mushrooms, and green bell pepper/jalapenos/barbecue sauce/mozzarella

Sunday started bright and early with a trip to Trader Joe’s!

Trader Joes
I surprised myself a little with how much stuff was in the cart.  But no one was more amused than my cashier.  As he was ringing me up, he asked if this was a restocking trip.  I said kind of and laughed a little.  He then asked if I had kids.  I said no and then he started laughing.  My response – “My husband and I love food and prefer to eat in!”  It’s the truth.

I spent the next couple of hours cleaning and organizing.  I know I sound crazy, but it was so much fun.  Our apartment was a little too messy, dusty, etc. for my taste.  I finally feel settled and back to normal!  And just as an FYI, I am still using a homemade vinegar based cleaning solution for pretty much everything (counter tops, the floor, wood cabinets, etc.).  This stuff is amazing.  I highly recommend trying it out.  Life changing.

The night ended on a high (and sweet) note with homemade molten chocolate cake!  I followed this recipe and made a few tweaks.  I changed the serving size to 2.  I also swapped 2 tablespoons raw cane sugar for powdered, whole wheat white flour for all purpose, Ghirardelli dark chocolate chips for bittersweet chocolate, and glass bowls for ramekins (because I don’t own any).  And finally, I only baked my cakes for 9 minutes (instead of 14).  Ooey gooey perfection!  The only thing that would have made this dessert better is ice cream…next time for sure!

Molten Chocolate Cake
And finally, I have one other weekend highlight to share.  I got a new hair straightener!  My almost seven year old CHI stopped working early last week, so I had no choice.  I did a little research and narrowed down my choices to the Sedu and the GHD.  I decided to go with the Sedu purely based on the fact that Roshni owns one and highly recommended it.  And the reviews were pretty much split between the two brands, so I figured I couldn’t go wrong either way.  And so far so good!  I used it last night for the first time and loved how quickly my hair went from coarse and wavy to straight and silky.  Even Vishnu was shocked…his exact words – “I don’t think your hair has ever been this straight!”

And with that, I wish y’all a very happy Monday!