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Ugly Words and Thoughts

I found myself getting really annoyed after work today.  Why?  Because I read an article on People.com about Kaela Humphries (Chris Humphries sister) and her new modeling gig.  The article actually made me happy.  From what I read, it seems like she’s going after a passion or interest of hers and making it a reality.  What upset me and got me thinking were some of the comments at the bottom of the article. 

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When I look at this picture, all I see is a beautiful face.

Now, I understand that people hide behind the internet and say things they’d probably never say to someone directly, and as a blogger, I understand this all too well.  However, when is enough enough?  I’m all for constructive feedback and even healthy disagreement, but to say horrible things about someone’s physical appearance is just low. 

I’ve discussed my own struggle with self-acceptance and confidence several times in the past.  And to be honest, from what I’ve experienced, these issues are very personal matters.  It’s always been about my journey.  I didn’t like the way I looked.  I thought I needed to lose weight.  I wasn’t happy with the number on the scale.  These thoughts were my own. 

But since when is it ok to negatively comment on someone else’s journey – to success, to self-love, to happiness, etc.?  Who are we to insert ourselves into the heart and minds of others and project our ugly thoughts on them?  And don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect or an exception to the rule.  In the past, if I didn’t like someone, I would take jabs at her (his) physical appearance behind her (his) back.  But I’ve learned that those words and thoughts do absolutely more harm than good.

When someone really wants something, their dress size, their reflection in the mirror, and the number on the scale most likely won’t won’t stop or break them, but you know what will – harsh, negative words from others.  And if you stop and think about it for just a second, who would you rather be – the individual who stopped someone dead in their tracks or the individual who helped someone soar to new heights?

Whenever possible, be kind, be supportive, be a friend.  And if you can’t do that, just don’t be mean.