Don’t Apologize for Being Picky About These 3 Things

Early on in life, being picky is usually seen as negative thing.  For example, toddlers can be picky eaters and that can oftentimes pose a problem for parents.

Even later in life, I’ve had several friends be told that they’re too picky because they aren’t married yet.  (Side note: I mean, I get that parents worry, but really?  Too picky about who you’re going to spend the rest of your life with?  Hmm…)

Now that I’m in my thirties, I consider pickiness to be a positive attribute.  I know it’s cliché, but you only get this one life.  There are no second chances or do overs.  That’s why I’m not going to apologize for being picky about the following three things.  In fact, I’m only going to be pickier from here on out!

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Like it is with so many other things in life, we oftentimes don’t respect time until it’s a thing of the past.  Once it’s gone, it’s gone.  Time is precious.

And that’s exactly why I want to be pickier about how I spend my time.  Admittedly, I’m not the best at this.  However, I’m trying to be more present and aware of how I choose to spend my free time.  If I find myself aimlessly watching TV or surfing the internet, I check in and ask myself if this is really what I want to be doing right now.  If the answer is yes, then I continue on.  If the answer is no, I turn my attention to something more meaningful.

I’m also trying to be better about prioritizing my time so that it’s not always filled with other people’s agenda items.  This ensures that the ever important “me” activities don’t get pushed to the back burner.


Over the past couple of years, I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) that one of the best things you can do is be picky about who you let into your life.

I used to be the kind of person that wanted everyone to be a part of her life.  Even if people didn’t return the favor, I’d do my absolute best to keep in touch.  I’d also make excuses for people who were less than kind.  And those excuses usually resulted in me blaming myself for their behavior.  One word comes to mind when I think of those days…EXHAUSTING!

So now, I’m choosing to be picky not only about who comes into my life but also who stays.  I’m trying very hard to be more positive, grounded and zen.  The last thing I need is someone else’s negative energy.  And by no means am I saying that I only want positive people all the time.  In fact, that wouldn’t be very authentic at all.  I guess my point is that if someone’s overall vibe is negative, I don’t want or need it.



I’m a firm believer in that money (aka “things”) can’t buy happiness.  In my 31 years, I’ve seen plenty of unhappy people with plenty of money and “things.”  I’ve also seen lots of happy people with very little in terms of the things money can buy.  Now, I know this isn’t as black and white as I’m making it seem, but overall, when I reflect on the happiest/most fulfilling moments in my life, they had nothing to do with the things money can buy.  They did, however, have to do with an experience of some sort.  And I totally acknowledge that some experiences in life require a little dough!

Vishnu and I are ridiculously fortunate in terms of our finances.  Don’t get me wrong.  We aren’t bringing in the big bucks by any means, but for the most part, money isn’t something we worry about regularly.  However, that doesn’t mean we can/should spend freely on “things.”  In fact, my goal with our next move is to get rid of as many “things” as possible.

What I do want is for us to be pickier about how we prioritize between things and experiences.  For example, I splurged a little for better seats at the Aziz Ansari show this weekend because I know it’s going to be a fun experience for both me and Vishnu.  AND it’s his birthday!  Travel is another experience I want us to prioritize.  Our trip to Italy, while expensive, was beyond amazing!  The memories we created will stay with me for the rest of my life.

Sometimes “things” are necessary and even warranted, but when it comes to how you choose to spend your money, prioritize and pick experiences over “things.”  Trust me, you’re guaranteed to get a better happiness return!

Thanks for reading and happy Friday!

Do you find yourself getting pickier as you get older?  How so?

Three Things Thursday (26) – Chicago, Burt’s, and Mindy!

It’s my sister and Vishnu’s birthday week!  These goofballs are two of my favorite people in the world.  I can’t wait to celebrate with Vishnu this weekend (AZIZ!) and with my sister next week when I’m in Chicago for a work trip (she’s up there for a rotation).

Anyways, let’s get right to my Three Things Thursday…

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I’m headed to Chicago for a few days next week!  Not only will I get to see Aekta, but I’ll also get to spend time with my Chicago + London colleagues.  And you better believe I’m going to try a new restaurant or two!  Can’t wait!

(2) Burt’s Bees Lip Balm with pomegranate oil

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When I was home last weekend, I saw that my mom had an unused lip balm sitting around.  As is the case with lots of things my sister and I find at home, I asked my mom if I could have it.

I’ve been using it all week and can personally attest to the fact that this balm is awesome!  I love how moisturizing it is.  And it leaves the perfect pink sheen.  Thanks, momma!

(3) Why Not Me? by Mindy Kaling

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I’m a HUGE Mindy Kaling fan!  I read Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) a few years ago, I watch The Mindy Project religiously, and I follow her on Instagram.  Huge fan!

I’ve heard lots of great things about Mindy’s new book.  So even though it wasn’t on my original reading list, I’m going to break my own rules yet again and read it next.  Woo hoo!  I see marathon reading Sunday being a thing this weekend. Smile

Well, that’s all I have this week.  Happy Thursday, and as always, thank you for reading!

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InstaNatural Scar Gel + My New Skincare Routine

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged about my acne dilemmas.  And there’s a very good reason for that.  Over the past 3ish months, my acne has gone from prominent and painful to nearly nonexistent.

Yes, that’s correct!  I have (for the time being at least) cured my face of constant breakouts.  Of course, I’m still prone to the occasional pimple here and there, but it’s not a regular thing anymore!  And the pimples I do get disappear in days versus weeks.

I honestly don’t know what to attribute this wonderful and exciting development to.  My mom and Vishnu think it’s because I’ve been working on reducing my stress levels.  Personally, I think it’s due in part to that and in part to my new skincare routine. And in particular, a new product I added to my regimen – the InstaNatural Scar Gel.

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Before I tell you all about this magical potion, I have to share how I came across it.

At the end of May, Vishnu suggested I use Mederma (a scar lightener) on the scars I have on my legs from the Tough Mudder race I ran last year.   I said I would look into it but never did (oops!).  When he realized this, he took matters into his own hands and did a little research on scar gels/creams.  That’s how he came across InstaNatural.  And without telling me, he bought a bottle.

When it finally arrived in early June, I asked Vishnu if he thought I could use it on my face too.  Ultimately, I decided to give it a try (because why not?!) and started with a couple of the more prominent scars on my face.  Over time, I started applying a thin layer to my entire face.  And I kid you not when I say that it has made all the difference in the world.  Not only are my scars (both new and old) fading, but my skin is smoother and brighter than ever before.

You guys know I’ve tried everything under the sun to address my acne – I took antibiotics and used a prescription grade cream, I tried going dairy-free, I used Proactiv, and we can’t forget about my ACV fiasco.  And this is just scratching the surface.  I’ve been experimenting for YEARS!  And now, I have finally found something that is the real deal (for me)!

InstaNatural Scar Gel is made with Epidermal Growth Factor which helps speed the healing process.  It also includes green tea, moisturizers, etc.  Whatever it is, it’s truly magical!  And while the price point compared to the size of the bottle is on the higher end of the spectrum, I can vouch for the fact that the product goes a LONG way.  I’ve had the same bottle for almost four months.

The gel itself is light brown in color and has a runny but spreadable consistency that absorbs quickly into the skin. I use one full pump for my entire face.  Some reviewers say the smell is off putting, but I honestly don’t smell anything at all.

Here’s exactly how I incorporate it into my skincare routine

My New AM Skincare Routine

My New PM Skincare Routine

My PM skincare routine mirrors the above with one small change.  Instead of using the Trader Joe’s Moisturizer, I apply a nickel sized amount of the Cetaphil Moisturizing Cream for Dry/Sensitive Skin to my entire face before bed.

Clarification – I also use coconut oil every PM around my eyes, on my eyebrows, and on my lips.  

I’ve been taking pictures of my face to monitor the progress, and if I wasn’t such a wuss, I’d share them with you guys!  But trust me when I say that my skin on June 12 looks completely different than it does now.  In fact, when I went home this past weekend, my sister thought I was wearing makeup when I wasn’t!  If that’s not something, then I don’t know what is!

I’ll post an update in a few months to share how this new product and routine are going.  Fingers crossed that I don’t have to add this to my long list of acne experiment failures!

Let me know if you decide to try this scar gel.  While I can’t guarantee that it’ll be just as life changing for everyone, I do think it’s worth a try!

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‘Officially’ Engaged!

My sister and Adarsh (her fiancé) got engaged the “down on one knee” way back in March.  This past weekend my parents hosted their religious engagement ceremony (pooja) at our house, so now they’re ‘officially’ engaged!

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I (unfortunately Vishnu had to work this weekend) flew into Atlanta on Wednesday night, worked on Thursday, and then went into engagement mode on Thursday evening.  While my parents had prepped a lot of things beforehand, there was still lots left to do.  For example, on Thursday evening, my mom and aunt made puris (fried bread), mathai (a savory fried snack), and a few other things.  We also prepped the mitai (Indian sweets) packages and made the haars (garlands).

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We woke up bright and early on Friday morning to make more food and clean.  Adarsh, Aekta, and Adarsh’s family, along with a few other family members got in a little after noon.  We ate a delicious South Indian lunch and then started to get ready for the pooja.

The pooja started around 6 pm and lasted a couple of hours.  Because I wasn’t the one getting engaged (been there done that!), I was able to take pictures and move around a bit.

Unlike some of the other poojas my parents have hosted in the past, this one was small – very close family only (~30 people).  It was so nice to hang out with everyone afterwards, including Vishnu’s parents, brother and his girlfriend who all drove up in the crazy Atlanta traffic.

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My dad didn’t get the smiling memo!

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Adarsh’s family stayed with us on Friday and Saturday so we could get through some of the big ticket planning items, including a four hour visit to the outfit designer and a tour of the wedding weekend venue.  Even though we were all so exhausted, everyone rallied and made the most of our time together.  This was my first time meeting Adarsh’s family, and I love them already!  His little sister is so much fun to hang out with, and his parents are super sweet.

Even though the big day is eight months away, I just know it’s going to be here before we know it.  AND I’M JUST SO EXCITED!!!

Pink by Ruchi – An Update

Happy Friday, y’all!  We made it to the end of the week. 

I’m actually in Atlanta this weekend for my sister and Adarsh’s religious engagement ceremony.  YAY!  I plan to take lots of pics and look forward to sharing more on Monday! 

Until then, please welcome back my good friend Ruchi!  She’s back in India after her trip to the US and is sharing updates and glimpses into her current every day life!

Take it away, Ruch!

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Hello, hello!  If you’d like to read a quick update (okay, it’s kinda long) on my trunk show that I posted about last time, feel free to head on over to my blog and see my before and after makeover pics as well.  It was so much fun!

I thought for today, I’d do something a little different.  Rather than talk a whole lot, I wanted to share pictures of my daily sights and happenings.  Apologies for the quality – they were taken on my phone while the car was moving, and I was a being a little bit of a creeper in others…

It’s so interesting to see such extremes in this country – it just goes to show how far we’ve come and how much farther we still have to go.  With that being said, here we GO!


I’m amazed every day at the way certain construction is still conducted here.  Those men are tying bamboo type rods together with rope while they stand unsupported and unprotected.


And down the street, we’ve got this monstrosity of a mall with some of the best designer stores in the world.


Love it when I see a woman scootin’ around; not sure how I feel about the child seated in front with no belt or anything…


People waiting to take a driving test – I also had to do this, and if you think the DMV is bad, try again :)


As you can see, Jai has taken over my desk area while I’ve been gone – time to clean!



The first is an older picture, but Jai and I are trying to do this more often – go to one of the best tea shops and have a nice cup of masala, saffron chai and a jalebi (basically fried dough dipped in syrup) first thing in the morning – um yes, it’s absolutely amazing!  The funniest part about this is that you’ll see men in their workout gear chomping down on samosas (more fried, savory goodness), chai, jalebi and much more – well, at least they’re treating themselves after a ‘hard’ workout – okay, okay, I’ll stop being mean and breaking my rule of not talking much!


This is going to be our lives around town for the next few years – they’re building the metro – ‘nuff said.  AND, traffic is terrible these days because of this!


The pictures on buses and other public transport just crack me up!  Yup, that’s Spidey!


And, I thought I’d end with this beautiful image – the way we do havans/pujas/prayers at home – this is right before we start – it evokes such amazing feelings, and when the fire is at its strongest – gives you chills!

Thanks so much for reading along – hope you enjoyed it!

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Thanks for sharing your daily sights with us, Ruch!  Hope you’re settling back ok!

And have a wonderful weekend, everyone!  Thanks for reading. Smile